Neither am I, and based on what I've seen as far as the source control implementation, I don't think you can do that, though perhaps someone at NI knows?
I would suggest using the SourceSafe client outside of LabVIEW, and turn off source control integration from within LabVIEW. That's what I did when I used SourceSafe.
As an aside: you don't need to keep the files in a user.lib file in order for the files to show up in the palette. You can edit the palette and insert a subpalette that is a link to a directory. That way you don't have to keep the files in an .LLB file, which is evil. Well, that's an overstatement, but LLBs have their problems, not the least of which is that if one VI in the library gets corrupted, then the whole library is corrupted.