When you say, "I just want to send commands to the card", do you mean, "I want to simulate having the instrument connected"? Or do you really want to send commands to the card itself, and not to an instrument?
If the former, then hopefully your ActiveX object has a simulation mode that can operate without the instrument connected. Check your ActiveX programming manual for this object, or ask the vendor.
If you want to communicate with the card only, then the ActiveX object probably already does this. You will be limited to only those methods and properties that pertain to the card. If the ActiveX object doesn't support this, do you have a register-level programming reference for this card? If so, you could use NI-VISA to program this card through
that interface.
If are really a glutton for punishment, you could write your own ActiveX server to simulate the instrument and/or card.
Sorry I can't be more definitive in my response; I'm just guessing based on your description.
Brian