Stephen,
Attached is my trial to reproduce error. No luck.:( The all works in any order.
Try to do the following:
Open DS Server Manager.
Select SampleNum item from predefined data items and set read and write access to SampleGroup.
Then add your hosts to SampleGroup list.
Then connect Publisher numeric to SampleNum item (brosing data from the menu will do) and subscriber to SampleNum item the same way.
Now you will always see GREEN leds on both independently of starting sequence (DS server should be started and settings made in Server Manages should be saved before.)
If troubles try to experiment on localhost for example. In my case it works on any PC connected to the local network.
My samples attached.
Regards,
Sergey